we find ourselves indebted to our parents, particularly our mother. She not only nourished us in her womb, but went through pain and suf...
we find ourselves indebted to our parents, particularly our mother. She not only nourished us in her womb, but went through pain and suffering. She loved us even before we were born. She toiled when we were totally helpless infants. She spent sleepless nights caring for us. Our parents as a team provided for all our needs: physical, educational, psychological, and in many instances, religious, moral, and spiritual. Our indebtedness to our parents is so immense that it is not possible to repay it fully. In lieu of this, it becomes obligatory for us to show the utmost kindness, respect, and obedience to our parents. The position of parents, and the mutual obligations and responsibilities, have been addressed in Islam in great detail. The Qur'anic commandments, as well as the sayings of Prophet Muhammad guide us in this matter. The parent-child code of behavior in Islam is unique, since rules were laid down by divine command.
References to parents have been made at least 15 times in the Holy Qur'an. There are numerous traditions of the Prophet Muhammad on this subject. I will first quote some of the Qur'anic verses here:
"And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is thy final goal." (Chapter31: verse14)
"Our Lord! Forgive me and my parents and believers on the day when the account is cast." Holy Quran (14:41)
"My Lord! Forgive me and my parents and him who enters my house believing, and the believing men and the believing women; and do not increase the unjust in aught but destruction!" Holy Quran (71:28)
According to the above verse, gratitude to God and to parents go hand in hand. Gratitude to God is incomplete without showing gratitude to one's parents. Since being grateful to God is a form of ibadah (worship) which earns heavenly rewards, it can therefore be said that being grateful to one's parents also earns heavenly rewards.
"Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or more attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say, "my Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy, even as they cherished me in childhood." (17: 23,24)
"We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth." (46:15)
Thus, God has enjoined on us to show kindness, respect, and humility to our parents. We are commanded to do this, even though they may have injured us. The only exception to the above command is made in the following verse:
"We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; but if they strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not." (29:8)
Mother, what can I give you?
After having reached the height of his career a man felt a duty to repay his mother back for all that she had done for him.
He asked, “Mother, what can I give you? What can I do for you? I sincerely wish to repay you for the sacrifices you made for me and for all the love you have showered upon me.”
Mother looked surprised and said, “Why do you think about it? It was my duty so I did it, you don”t have to repay me. Even if you want to, there is no way a man can ever repay his mother.”
Despite her continuous refusal to ask for anything, the son persisted. To put an end to the discussion, she said, “All right. If you must, then tonight you sleep on my bed, with me, just as you used to when you were a baby.”
He said, “That”s a strange thing to ask for, but if it pleases you, I will.”
As soon as he fell asleep, the mother got up and brought a bucket of water. She poured a mug full of water on his side. Feeling disturbed by the wetness under him, in his sleep he moved away to the other side of the bed. As he settled down, his mother poured another mug of water on the other side. In his slumber he tried to find space towards the foot post of the bed.
Sometime later he woke up feeling that this part of the bed too was damp. He got up and saw his mother, with the mug in her hand. He asked angrily, “What are you doing mother? Why don”t you let me sleep? How do you expect me to sleep on a wet bed?”
Mother said, “I slept with you, when you wet the bed in the night. I would change your nappy and move you to the dry part of the bed, while I slept on the wet side. You wanted to repay me. Can you sleep here even for one night with me on a damp bed? If you can, I”ll take it that you have repaid me.”
How eloquently the story above demonstrates that we can”t even begin to repay the care, love and attention a mother showers her child throughout the course of life.
May Allah (SWT) enable us to be of service and comfort to both our parents when we can and may He grant us PATIENCE to serve them during their old age.
Maut ki aagosh mein jab thak key soo jattiii hain maa
tab kahii jaakar sukoon thora sa paa jaati hain maaaa
fikar mein bachoo ki kuch istarah ghul jaati hain maa
nau jawan hotey howey bhorii nazar aati hain maaa
eik hi hasraat ko apney azm-o-istaqlal sey
aansoo sey gusl dekar kudh hi dafnaati hain maa
aurhtii hain gurbatoo kaa khud yeh boseeda kafan
chahatoo ka perahan bachey ko pehnaatii hain maa
bhooka rehnay hi nahi deti yateemoo ko kabhi
jaaney kis kis sey kahan sey maang kar laati hain maa
rooh key rishtey ki yeh gheraiyan tou dekhayey
chot lagtii hain hamarey aur chilaatii hain maaa
kab zarorat hoon meray bachey ko itnaa soch kar
jaagti rehtii aaankhen aur soooo jaati hain maaa
haadyoon ka ras pila kar apney dil key chain koo
kitnii raatey mein tou khalii paet sojaati hain maaa
jaaney kitnii barf si raatoo mein aisaa bhi howa
bacha tou chatii pey hain gelay mein sojatii hain maa
jab khiloney ko machaltaa hain koi gurbat ka phool
aaansoo key saaz par bachey ko behlatii hain maaa
fikar mein shamshan key aakhir chatanoo ki tarah
jaisay sookhii lakriaa istraha jaal jaati hain maaa
apnii aanchal sey gulabii aansoo ko poonch kar
deir tak gurbat pey apnii askh barsatii hain maa
samney bachoo key khush rehtii hain har ek haal mein
raat ko chup chup kay lekin askh barsatii hain maaa
pehley bachoo ko khilaatii hain sukoon-o-chain sey
baad mein jo kuch bacha who shauq sey kahti hain maa
Mangtiii bhi nahi apney liyey allah sey
Apney bachoo key liyey daman ko phelatii hain maa
Janey anjaney mein hojayey jo bachey sey kasoor
Eik anjaani saza key dukh sey tarhaaati hain maa
Har ibadat har mohabbat mein nihah hain eik garz
Be garz be losss har khidmat ko kar jaati hain maa
Apney bachoo ki baharey zindagi key wastey
Aansooo key phoool har mosaaam mein barsatii hain maa
Bazooo mein kich key aaajaye gi kaisay qainat
Apney bachey key liyey bahoon ko pehlaatii hain maaa
Eik eik hamley sey bachey ko bachaney key liyey
Dhaaal bantii hain kabhi talwar ban jaati hain maaa
Pheley dil ko saaf karkey khoob apney khoon sey
Dharkanoo par kalmae-tauheed likh jaati hain maaa
Safha-e-hastii pey likhtii hain who usool-e-zindagi
Isi lyey ek maqtab-e-islam kehlatii hain maaa
Usney duniyaa ko diyey masoom rehbar islyey
Azmatoh mein saani-e-quran kehlatii hain maa
Jab perashanii mein ghir jaatey hain hum pardes mein
Aaansoo ko poochney khawaboo mein aajatii hain maa
Aisa lagta hain key jaisa aagaye firdoos mein
Daal kar bahey galey mein sar ko sehlatii hain maa
Agaya gar waqt muskhill apney dil key chain par
Qabr mein hotey howey bhi ashq barsatii hain maa
Baad mar jaaney key phir betay ki khidmat key liyey
Bhes betii ka badal kar ghar mein aaajati hain maaa
Door hojatii hain sari umr ki us dam thakan
Bihah karkey betay kaa jab ghar bahoo lati hain maa
Dekh letay hain nazar jis waqt betay aur bahoo
Ajnabi apney hi ghar mein haayey ban jaati hain maa
Allah allah bhool kar eik eik satam ko raat mein
Pootii pootey sey shikastaaa dil ko behlatii hain maa
Beta kitnaa hi bura hoon par padosan key huzoor
Jab Tu Peda Howa Kitna Majbour Tha
Yeh Jahan Teri Socho`n Se Bhi Door Tha
Hath Paon Bhi Tab Tere Apne Na Thay
Teri Ankhon Main Duniya Ke Sapne Na Thay
Tujh Ko Ata Tha Sirf Rona Hi Tha
Doodh Pe Ke Kaam Tera Sona Hi Tha
Tujh Ko Chalna Sikhaya Tha Maa Ne Teri
Tujh Ko Dil Main Basaya Tha Maa Ne Teri
Maa Ke Saye Main Parwan Chalne Laga
Waqt Ke Sath Qad Tera Barhne Laga
Aahista Aahista Tu Kariyal Jawan Ho Giya
Tujh Pe Sara Jahan Mehrban Ho Giya
Zor-e-Bazoo Pe Tu Baat Karne Laga
Khud Hi Sajne Laga Khood Hi Sanwarne Laga
Aik Din Ik Haseena Tujhe Bha Gayi
Ban Ke Dulhan Woh Tere Ghar Agayi
Farz Apne Se Tu Door Hone Laga
Beej Nafrat Ka Khood Hi Tu Bone Laga
Phir Tu Maa Baap Ko Bhi Bhulane Laga
Teer Bato Ke Phir Tu Chalane Laga
Baat Be Baat Unn Se Tu Ladne Laga
Qayda Ik Naya Tu Phir Padne Laga
Yaad Kar Tujh Se Maan Ne Kaha Ik Din
Abb Humara Guzara Nahi Tere Bin
Sunn Ke Yeh Baat Tu Tesh Main Aa Gaya
Tera Gussa Teri Aqal Ko Kha Gaya
Josh Main Aake Tu Ne Yeh Maa Se Kaha
Main Tha Khamosh Sub Dekhta Hi Raha
Aaj Kehta Hoon Peecha Mera Chor Do
Jo Hai Rishta Mera Tum Se Woh Tor Do
Jao Ja Ke Kahin Kaam Dhanda Karo
Log Marte Hain Tum Bhi Kahin Ja Maro
Beth Kar Aahain Bharte The Woh Raat Bhar
Inki Aahon Ka Tujh Par Howa Na Asar
Aik Din Baap Tera Chala Rooth Kar
Kese Bikhri Thi Phir Teri Maan Toot Kar
Phir Woh Be Bass Ajal Ko Bhulati Rahi
Zindagi Isko Har Roz Satati Rahi
Aik Din Mout Ko Bhi Taras Agiya
Iska Rona Bhi Taqdeer Ko Bha Giya
Ashk Ankhon Main Liye Woh Rawana Howi
Mout Ki Aik Hichki Bahana Howi
Ik Sukoon Is Ke Chehre Pe Chane Laga
Phir Tu Mayyat Ko Iski Sajane Laga
Muddatain Ho Gayi Aaj Boorha Hai Tu
Jo Para Touti Khatiya Pe Koora Hai Tu
Tere Bache Bhi Abb Tujh Se Darte Nahi
Nafratein Hain Muhabbat Woh Karte Nahi
Dard Main Tu Pukare Ke O MERI MAA
TERE DAM SE ROSHAN THE DONO JAHAN
Waqt Chalta Rahe Waqt Rukta Nahi
Tout Jata Hai Woh Jo Ke Jhukta Nahi
Bann Ke Ibrat Ka Tu Abb Nishan Reh Giya
Dhondh Zor Tera Kahan Reh Giya
Tu EHKAM-E-RABBI Bhulata Raha
APNE MAA BAAP KO TU SATATA RAHA
Kaat Le Tu Wohi Tu Ne Boya Tha Jo
Tujh Ko Kese Mile Tu Ne Khoya Tha Jo
Yaad Kar Ke Gaya Dor Rone Laga
Kal Jo Tu Ne Kiya Aaj Hone Laga
Mout Mange Tujhe Mout Aati Nahi
Maa Ki Surat Nigahon Se Jati Nahi
Tu Jo Khansay Tu Aulad Dante Tujhe
Tu Hai Nasoor Sukh Kon Bante Tujhe
Mout Ayegi Tujh Ko Magar Waqt Par
Bann Hi Jaye Gi Qabar Teri Waqt Par
QADAR MAA BAAP KI AGAR KOI JAAN LE
APNI JANNAT KO DUNIYA MAIN PEHCHAN LE
Aur Leta Rahe Woh Baro`n Ki Dua
Is Ke Dono Jahan, Iska Ka Haami KHUDA
